New Year’s resolutions, I am sure all of your feeds are filled with them. Whether it be fitness, health, or simply personal goals, New Years seems to be the time everyone decides to reinvent themselves. Whether you’re a supporter of them or not, I’m going to let you in on the reasons I don’t make New Years Resolutions, and my tips for if you do.
Resolutions vs. Goals
Simply put, goals are specific and resolutions are vague. Goals should be short-term accomplishments that help to achieve your overall long-term resolution. Goals are things such as workout 3 days a week for 6 weeks, or train for and run in the 5k race coming up in 3 months. These goals work towards the resolution of getting into shape. Most individuals cannot just accomplish their resolutions overnight, most resolutions require that you must put in the work. Setting yourself short-term goals that are easy to meet will help you get to where you want to be.
The problem with creating new years resolutions is that people often overlook creating these necessary goals and are then met with failure. Instead, take the time to create the stepping stones you need, you won’t regret it.
It’s All You
It’s easy to jump on the bandwagon with everyone else. Already today I’ve seen at least 3 different people asking who wants to join resolution groups. I’ve joined them before, and they are great…. for about 2 weeks until people start dropping out or not checking in. At that point, you’ll find yourself doing it all on your own, without the extra motivation of new years. When it comes down to it, you need to remember you are the only one who is responsible for achieving your resolution.
New years can give you that extra push, that motivation you need to get started, but in three weeks when the excitement of the new year has wound down it will be up to you to continue. Instead of getting caught up in the whirlwind excitement of the new year and making unrealistic resolutions that you will inevitably fail at, sit down, make a list of the steps you need to take and create check-in points, or even rewards, for yourself, and then just do it.
Start Right Now
Our brains love the idea of “new”, and with new years often comes the feeling of a bright, shiny fresh start we all dream about. We’ve all been there, New Year’s Eve, everyone cheering to bring in the new year, excited for what is to come. However, I don’t know about you, but I always seem to wake up and feel the exact same as I did the day before. The truth is, it may be a new year, but nothing has changed.
If you want to achieve some new resolutions you don’t need a new year, or a new anything, you just need determination. If you fail at a goal or need to take a day off, you do not need to restart everything, just pick it back up at that moment and continue on. How many times have you heard someone say, “I’ll start my ___ Monday”? Time exists in our minds, and if we really want to reach change things we need to start right now. You do not need a new year, new week, or even a new day to start your goals. If you want to do something, simply commit to it, and you’ve already begun. You can do this for New Years, but you do not need the new year or even a fresh start.
Keep it to yourself
If you don’t tell social media about your new year’s resolutions have you even made them? That’s what it sure feels like.
Recently I watched a TedTalk (which was one of my October goals if you recall) on why you should keep your goals to yourself. “But who will keep me accountable?” I hear you asking, keep reading. The speaker, Derek Sivers, explained how psychologically, by sharing our goals we feel gratification, and because of this we often stop pursuing our goal because we feel we have already accomplished it.
I’m not telling you that you can’t share your goals or resolutions, or by doing so you won’t accomplish them, but you need to look into why you are sharing them. Are you telling people because you are proud of the goals you have set, or because you are looking to have someone keep you accountable? Instead of sharing your with resolutions to everyone this new year, pick one or two people that you know will keep you accountable and that you can check in with, and tell only them. Don’t post it on your social media, don’t tell everyone you meet, just do it and once its done share your actual accomplishment. Whats the worst that could happen?
I do have resolutions, I just don’t make them for the new year. I keep them with me all year round, making new goals when I accomplish my old ones or re-evaluating the goals I haven’t been able to meet.
Do you make new years resolutions? If so, what goals are you making to get towards them?